tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1254546341848447731.post7918304560022286840..comments2016-05-05T19:56:18.260-07:00Comments on Swimming AGAINST the Tide: To Date, or not to Date, that is the QuestionCalebhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13870231765872885019noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1254546341848447731.post-90037268836651692772011-05-23T19:26:37.595-07:002011-05-23T19:26:37.595-07:00Love this post Caleb! Can I have permission to lin...Love this post Caleb! Can I have permission to link to it on my blog? Please email me as I have another question for you too!<br />Thanks!<br />Sarah<br />forhisgloryhandiwork (at) gmail (dot) com<br />www.matthew18vs14.blogspot.comSarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11222190244731428788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1254546341848447731.post-1992827633744624232011-05-05T05:47:18.117-07:002011-05-05T05:47:18.117-07:00Hi Caleb! It's Carolyn, and while I'm sitt...Hi Caleb! It's Carolyn, and while I'm sitting here in the library, procrastinating writing a philosophy paper, your blog popped up on my facebook feed...so I figured I'd check it out! Why not add one more thing to my list of procrastination? =)<br /><br />Anyway, I felt the need to comment on this particular post of yours. Growing up in my family, whether this was fueled by religion or not, my parents stressed boundaries- especially to me, their "fearless" child. As I got older this became the boundaries between the sexes, and although at first I couldn't fathom why they wouldn't let my friend, who happened to be a boy, hang out in my room with me, it eventually made sense. I didn't do all that much "dating" in high school, in fact the first boyfriend I had was post-highschool, even if there were semi-serious flirtations before that. <br /><br />The first real boyfriend I had, we got very serious (emotionally) very quickly, and I think this is relatively similar for most people. A "first love" so to speak, even if in hindsight you realize it wasn't really love. Although I often wish I hadn't dated this particular guy at all, I also know I learned many valuable lessons from that relationship. I've also learned something important from each relationship since, whether it be just a flirtation reminiscent of high school or a long term relationship. <br /><br />I suppose my (long winded) point is this: dating is important. The first person someone dates is rarely the best person for them, but every relationship is important in it's own way, if you're smart about it. You learn things you can't stand in a partner, and things that are relatively necessary. So take your time, definitely, and when you do start dating don't lose yourself in it: keep your values, and definitely keep your head on straight. <br /><br />You're a smart kid, and I'm sure when you (and perhaps your parents) do decide it's time to start possibly dating, you'll do just fine. Remember, no matter what those around you are doing when it comes to dating (as you were citing your peers) you're not dating for them, you're dating for you, and you have your own rules and your own standards. <br /><br />As far as opposite gender friends are concerned, they're the best. People will always question whether or not you're "just friends" but you'll get used to it. And honestly, sometimes those friendships do morph into great relationships. But once again, you're smart...you'll be able to figure out which is which. =)<br /><br />OK...I suppose I should stop bothering you now and focus on axiology. I hope you're doing well!Carolynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01567864143778259001noreply@blogger.com